I've been thinking a lot recently about the impact that people leave on others, and about how everyone, in some way, helps to influence someone.
Have you ever thought about the fact that how you act and what you do will leave an impression on people? I have been becoming more aware of this recently. I have been given an opportunity to leave good or bad impressions on people daily, through work or through my interaction with others. Think about it for a second: unless you are a hermit, you interact with people everyday. Do you really think that the things you say and the things that you do go unnoticed? Do you think that your bad mood went unnoticed by the person who always looks to you to be upbeat and get encouragement from? I can almost guarantee that most of your actions are being observed by someone. A great quote I heard once that says "A smile can brighten the darkest day." Someone once told me once that he viewed bad moods as being selfish. Years later, I agree with him. I hate being in bad moods: it's a waste of time. When I'm in a bad mood, it brings the others around me down too because I'm grumpy and that is not the impact and impression I want to leave people about myself. You have the chance to leave a great impact on another person just by the way that you present yourself to the world, even if it is not who you truly are. What I mean by this is that someone could look up to you, and totally respect you...when you are not really living a life worthy of having that respect. I talked with someone once who was and still is a person that others look up to...a leader actually, not a follower by any means. He explained how he felt he was not worthy of such a position because "there are others better." Even though he feels like this, he knows that he is in this position for a reason and is doing his best to fill it. The option that he faced was whether or not to embrace this role...or run the other way.
I never pictured myself as anyone important, or someone who would leave good impressions or impact others. I am noticing though that apparently I am that person, and everyone is. There is a guy I work with who is in his mid-20s and slightly mentally challenged who has a horrible home life. Because I told him he could always talk to me and tried to befriend him, I left an impression on him and made him feel comfortable enough to come and cry on my shoulder one day because of something at home. In return, he left an impression on me as well. Kind of the defining moment for me that made me realize that I can and do leave impressions on people, and made me want to ensure that it is a good one is something that happened yesterday.
A gentleman came into work and walked up to the counter. I said hello to him and asked how I could help him and he looked at me, thought for a second and asked, "This might sound crazy, but did you by any chance get your flights delayed from American Airlines a few months ago?" At which point I realized why I recognized him...he and his wife were on their way to St. Kits for vacation, and I was headed to Ohio in April, and were standing behind me in line when we found out that 98% of the AA flights had been canceled. We waited for 2-3 hours in line to try and find out if we could be re-booked with another airline and this couple and I got to talking and realized we were both from Goodyear and I worked at the PB&C that had just opened up. 5 months later, he remembered who I was and asked if I ever made it to my destination. That was an incredibly frustrating day but I did my best to stay positive, and I wonder if I would have been remembered if I'd been pessimistic and complained about it the entire time.
So I ask this question: what kind of impact are you leaving? Do your actions live out your words, or are you just all talk? Just because you feel that you are nobody to the world, you might just be the world to somebody and you don't even realize it. David in the Bible was a "nobody," or so he and everyone else thought. Turns out he kills a guy which causes a major Biblical victory and is eventually crowned king. Who would have thought.
Think about it. What are you doing?